In today’s fast pace world, we seem to have forgotten women’s cyclic nature. This highly competitive world demands women to be on par with men, that is to say constantly on the go, preventing us from being true to ourselves, and also to nature and its seasons.

Women experience four phases throughout their life; and during menstruation, they go through four phases each cycle. Even if they are not having a bleed, they move through these phases monthly. Each phase aligns with the moon’s four phases and the earth’s four seasons. It is all interconnected.

About a year ago, I decided to look more closely into women’s cyclic nature and learn about its different phases other than from a physiological perspective. Being aware of each phase and living in accordance with their innate qualities has allowed me to have a much smoother cycle each month. This is why I wanted to share this article with you. To release the negative views around menstruation or menopause, so that you too can make the most of your cycle and enjoy your femininity.

The purpose of this article is to explain each of these four phases, and how women can honour their cycle throughout life. Honouring our female cycle helps us to stay healthy physically and emotionally and allows us to live more fully. Following our cycle enables us to be true to ourselves and draw our strength from our inner wisdom.

“When we match a task to the enhanced skills we experience in a phase, not only can we do things better and quicker – we also feel great! Our menstrual cycle is an amazing instrument for creating achievement AND happiness.” Miranda Gray

Notes before we begin

This article is based on a typical 28-day menstrual cycle, but cycles can be longer or shorter. Each woman is different so please adapt this to your own rhythm.

Women who are not menstruating (whether they have gone through menopause or not) still experience these phases. If you are unsure where you are in your cycle, I suggest you follow the phases of the moon.

The content of this essay is based on Miranda Gray’s work which references are at the end. In her work, Gray has associated each phase to an archetype, which serves as a title for each section below. We begin with the youngest archetype.

 

Virgin

This phase of the cycle typically spans days 6 to 14, after menstruation and leading up to ovulation.

It also corresponds to the early years of puberty through the late 20’s.

–  Moon Phase: Waxing Moon

–  Season: Spring

During this phase, women often feel bright, energised and focused. This is a good time for planning the month ahead or starting a new project as your mental faculties will be a lot sharper.

It is also a good time for socialising as we are filled with outward energy. Do get some physical exercise too to stimulate your body.

Having just released what no longer serves us during menstruation, the Virgin phase is an ideal time to begin a new food or fitness regime. The best time would be to start it during this phase of your cycle during spring!

Emotionally, use this phase to reframe negative self-talk. Affirmations can help rewire limiting beliefs. Be confident in yourself!

 

Mother

The mother phase usually goes from days 14 to 21, from ovulation to pre-menstruation. It represents the childbearing years, typically  from the late 20’s to early 40’s.

– Moon Phase: Full Moon

– Season: Summer

Empathy and radiance are heightened during this phase. You are likely to devote your energy towards others, this may be your family but also your community, work colleagues or anyone outside your home. You may feel nurturing and generous – making it a great time for batch cooking (you can then freeze extras for when your energy is low).

You are likely to feel good in yourself, so this is the perfect time for socialising, networking, public speaking or hosting a workshop. It is also a great moment to have conversations with your partner about dreams or future plans.

Gratitude flows easily. Take time to appreciate Mother Earth and the blessings in your life.

 

Enchantress

This is the pre-menstrual phase, typically days 21 to 28. The Enchantress represents the perimenopausal years, from the mid-40’s to the mid 50’s.

–  Moon Phase: Waning Moon

–  Season: Autumn

This phase can be unpredictable as it comes with moods wings, and highs and lows with energy levels.  However, it is a powerful time for creativity when the mind may be restless or even hyperactive. Direct your energy towards a creative activity to release it; listen to your imaginative self and write, draw or manifest in any way that feels right.

Autumn is a time for clearing space to welcome the new. During energy highs, you may feel drawn to do a deep clean or declutter, preparing space for what is to come.

As energy wanes toward the end of this phase, patience and focus may diminish. Surrender and release. Be gentle with yourself as your body prepares for the next phase.

 

Sage

This phase is actually the first phase in the menstrual cycle, covering days 1 to 6 – menstruation.

I have chosen to finish with this phase because in terms of life stages, it represents the post-menopausal years. This phase is also known as the Wise Woman or the Grandmother.

–  Moon Phase: New Moon

–  Season: Winter

This is a time for slowing down, withdrawing. Rest, introspection and stepping away from social obligations become priorities

It is a time to clean out the old and welcome the new physically, emotionally and spiritually. If you have a busy life and live with others are home, you may find it difficult to prioritise yourself. Try and take a few minutes at the end of the day for yourself: have a bath, go in a cosy room for some silence or gentle music, go to bed early. Reflect on your past cycle and what you wish to release.

Your body will be tired, so it is best to avoid strenuous exercise. Stretches, gentle yoga or a slow walk in nature would be ideal during this phase.

Honouring and welcoming your bleed will really make a difference to the rest of your cycle.

 

Conclusion

I understand how challenging it can be to follow your cycle in today’s fast-paced world, especially if you have children or work full-time. But honouring our cycle is a powerful form of self-care. It allows us to understand some of our reactions or physical and emotional changes, and therefore to be gentler and understanding with ourselves.

If possible, take a few minutes each day, or every few days, to acknowledge where you are and notice what is coming up for you. Take some time out when you are menstruating or whenever you need to. When we care for ourselves, we are better able to look after others.

There are wonderful homeopathic remedies such as Sepia, Pulsatilla or Folliculinum that can help at various stages of womanhood, to restore a cycle or support through hormonal changes. Australian Bush Flower Essences include She Oak and Bush Fuchsia as single essences or the Woman Essence as a combination. Do get in touch with me if you need further support.

 

If you have enjoyed this article and want to learn more about women’s cycles, I recommend the following:

Miranda Gray’s website Miranda Gray

Miranda Gray, Red Moon book Red Moon

Miranda Gray, The optimized woman book Optimized Woman, The – Using your menstrual cycle to achieve success and fulfillment by Miranda Gray | Waterstones

Jessica McCleskey Hood Mahle’s course Moon Goddess Miracles

Autumn is such a beautiful season. The colours of the leaves are vibrant and warm, the low sun gives interesting lights in the trees, even spider webs can be interesting to watch. Despite this, autumn has never been my favourite season and I dread the clocks going backwards.

I do take pleasure in walking in the forest at this season and there is still some day light to enjoy, but I generally feel much better in summer and need time adjusting to the cold and dark. So I try to look on the bright side and see what steps I can take to make autumn as pleasant as possible.

Here are 5 ways to keep your spirits up this autumn:

1. Autumn is a time to reflect and implement change

Perhaps dictated by the change in school year, many of us make some changes to our daily routine at this time of the year, whether we have children or not.

When creating a new routine, one of the most important questions to ask ourselves in our reflection is:

“how do I stay balanced in autumn?”

As human beings, we are evolving continually. This change may be very little or more consequent and is triggered by the weather, what we eat, what we do, what happens to us at work or in our daily lives, our changing hormones. So we are often deviating from our true balance. Transitioning into a new season might require more steps to take to get back into balance, especially if it is a season we do not feel particularly well in.

So now is a good time to reflect on our work and our activities. Are they still fulfilling, bringing joy or benefit to me and/or others? Do I need to get out more and socialise? Do I need to spend more time looking after myself?

Self-care is very important, yet often neglected. If you find you have little time for yourself, how about starting by taking two minutes every day to pause and simply breathe? Taking small but achievable steps will contribute to your wellbeing – and benefit those around you too.

2. Make the most of the daylight

Days are getting shorter, and so it is important to make the most of what we have. If possible, go for a walk during the day, preferably in the morning to help balance your circadian rhythm. A lunch time walk would also be beneficial. The break will do you good and you can get some essential vitamin D from the sun. On your days off, go out and explore your local countryside. Not far from Bristol is the Westonbirt National Arboretum which is worth a visit.

Walking has many benefits, such as getting some fresh air into your lungs. When the cold sets in, we tend to keep our windows closed and so getting out and about is a way of getting some oxygen in our body. Walking also activates our circulation and helps our concentration levels.

If running is your thing, then I would certainly recommend trying out on a Saturday morning a local Parkrun. It is very friendly and non competitive, you will feel energised and can enjoy this slice of cake guilt free after your run!

3. Get creative

If you have some time on your hands, you may want to try out recipes with seasonal fruit and veg. Apple and blackberry crumble is a family favourite, but we also like soups made with squash or pumpkins. Root vegetables, pears, spinach, Romanesco cauliflower and broccoli are other autumnal vegetables, so make the most of them whilst in season. Explore making soups or stews, vary the combinations with different spices such as ginger, cinnamon and turmeric, or any other ingredient. You will be happily surprised and enjoy the time spent away from your screen.

This time is also great for trying out your artistic talents. Get your camera out and find interesting leaves or wildlife to photograph. Or pick up leaves during a walk and make some collages. Some craft ideas can be found here.

4. Get cosy during the longer evenings

Longer evenings do not mean you have to watch TV or work longer. I love reading and so curling up on the sofa with a good book is definitely a go to when possible. Playing games with other family members is also a good way to wind down at the end of the day. We like to play board games at the weekend when the sun has set. It is a good way to spend quality time with our loved ones.

Getting into aromatherapy is another option during those longer evenings. Essential oils have the benefits of helping us manage our emotions. They can help with stress, help to unwind, help to soothe muscles or manage mood swings. Treat yourself to an aromatherapy candle, essential oils or even create your own ointments, massage oil, bath oil, etc. Neals Yard and Baldwins are great places to get good quality products.

Autumn is also a good time to establish a good bed routine and go to bed early. We need more sleep to face the weather challenges so I encourage you to bring forward your bedtime whatever age you are – around 10pm is optimal, earlier is good too! And switching off your phone, or leaving it in a different room, will also contribute to better sleep.

5. Prepare for the winter

The change of season can bring illnesses to some of us and autumn is a time to prepare for the winter. Whether simply a cold or sore throat, or something more serious, it is good to be prepared. Taking a few supplements can help our immune system get ready for the cold ahead: vitamin C is a must. Zinc and vitamin D are also recommended to support immunity. In the UK we get so little sunshine in winter that it is safe to take extra vitamin D (Note: only take supplements a few days a week so as not to overburden your liver). You can also stock up on other natural supplements such as Echinacea drops or propolis in case you do get a cold.

Probiotics are also helpful, not only in keeping our guts healthy but also in improving our mood. The digestive system is often referred to our second brain, so keeping it healthy will contribute to being happier.

Related post: How to support your immune system this winter

I find preparing ahead very useful. For example, I will write a diary at the beginning of the week and make sure I include a walk on days I am particularly busy. Or I will make menus for the week ahead, this incites me on cooking more. It is easier to gather some ideas ahead so you are ready for when the season truly begins.

Do you need help managing the darker months? Let’s talk and see how I can help you.

With warm wishes,

Priscille Francetti LCCH MARH

Homeopath

The liver is one of the biggest organs in the human body. In fact, it is the second largest after the skin. It is also the largest gland in the body. It has many functions and is therefore a very important organ to keep healthy.

In this article, I look at why the liver is so important, the signs of a potentially unbalanced liver, and then explore ways to keep it healthy.

1. The functions of the liver

The liver is a major organ contributing to the body’s homeostasis (balance). It has many functions; I will explain some of them here in a simple way.

• It produces bile which helps to digest fats.
• It helps to regulate blood glucose levels through the metabolism of carbohydrates.
• It helps the metabolism of proteins.
• It cleans the blood from drugs and toxic substances, including alcohol.
• It removes hormones which are not needed by the body from the blood circulation, to help maintain healthy hormone levels.
• It stores several vitamins and minerals: most notably vitamins A, B12, D, E and K, iron and copper.
• It also has a role in the immune system: some of its cells can capture and digest bacteria and other unwanted molecules.

If you wish to deepen your knowledge of the subject, feel free to explore other resources.

2. Potential signs of an unbalanced liver

The body is intelligent and gives us warnings when it is not happy. Here are some of the signs that can indicated your liver is out of balance. Please note that other reasons may also be the cause of these issues.

• Waking up most nights between 1 and 3am.

In Traditional Chinese Medicine, the time of the liver is at night between 1 and 3am. If you find you wake up most nights during those times, then it is a possibility that your liver is unbalanced.

• Acne, pimples, or other skin issues.

The skin is an organ of elimination, and so if the liver isn’t working properly, the skin has to work extra hard to eliminate toxins. This can result in spots, often with pus, or other skin disorders. Anyone at any age can experience this, but it often happens during adolescence, before a period or during pregnancy as there are more hormones in the blood to deal with.

• Tiredness in the morning or after lunch.

If you find you are sluggish in the morning and take a long time to before being operational, or feel lethargic after lunch, this can also mean that your liver is unbalanced.

• Pale or floating stools.

Yellow to white stools or floating stools indicate the liver has difficulty dealing with fats, often from a lack of bile. If this occurs, please consult your GP to check there is no underlying serious issue.

• A dark urine can happen because of an unhealthy liver, or there can be an issue with the kidneys.
• Pain in the liver area, or pain in the right shoulder. The back pain will be as if poked by a stick.
• A yellow tinge to the skin or the white of the eye (yellow sclera).
• Bad breath can also be caused by an unhealthy liver.

Please consult your doctor if you are worried.

3. Ways to keep the liver healthy

The good news is that there are many things you can do to support your liver.

• The obvious one is to avoid alcohol, artificial food, excessive fat and sweet, unnecessary medication.
• Supportive foods

In addition, the liver thrives on dark green vegetables and bitter leaves (such as rocket). Other supportive foods include garlic, berries, olive oil and green tea.

• Drink freshly squeezed lemon in a glass of warm water.

It is best to do it first thing in the morning and wait half an hour before having breakfast, but can be done at any time.

• Skin brushing

This helps to remove the uppermost layer of the skin and stimulates the lymphatic system to eliminate toxins. Use a moderately stiff brush such as this one and do it in the morning before your shower, or in the evening if you prefer.

Start on the top of the right foot, going up towards your hip (back and front), then do the other leg. Brush your abdomen and then your back with movements going towards your heart. Follow with brushing your right hand up to your shoulder, left hand and arm, and finish with the top of your back and chest, again going towards your heart. You will probably find that it raises your heartbeat for a few seconds.

As a word of caution, avoid doing skin brushing if you are constipated.

• Herbal tinctures

Milk thistle, artichoke or dandelion tinctures can be very useful in helping to support the liver too. I would suggest you get further advice from a herbalist to avoid interactions with what you are taking.

• Get your body moving!

It won’t come as a surprise that exercise helps the digestion and has a positive impact on our mental health, reducing stress levels, and therefore stress hormones circulating in our blood. Sweat is another way to expel toxins, relieving some of the burden on your liver.

Walking, jogging, dancing, practicing yoga or Pilates are all good. Choose an activity which you like so you can enjoy its full benefits.

• Homeopathic remedies can help too!

There are various remedies available, either more constitutional remedies such as Lycopodium, or “organ drainage” remedies such as Chelidonium (pictured above). It is best to consult a homeopath for these.

If you would like to find out more about a homeopathic treatment, please contact me using those details.

With best wishes for a healthy life,

Priscille Francetti LCCH MARH

Homeopath

References:

I discovered Australian Bush flowers at the end of last year. I was invited to attend a workshop on Australian Bush Flowers essence combinations, and I just happened to be free that day. That was just as well because they really inspired me! So much so that I decided to start using them, for myself, my family, and in my practice. I am now a Level 2 Practitioner.

In this article, I will explain a bit about them and why they are so appealing.

Flowers generally have been used for centuries for their healing properties across most continents. In Europe, Hildegard von Bingen (whom some of you may know of) used flower essences in the 12^th century. More recently, Dr Edward Bach’s work shows that flowers’ essences can address emotional unbalances.

What are Australian Bush flowers?

For a long time, the Aborigines understood the medicinal properties of Australian Bush flowers. They ate the whole flower for its properties and at the same time, ingested dew residing on the flower (which is the base of today’s essences) providing further healing.

These essences were created by Ian White who grew up in Australia and was taught how Australian flowers can heal. He developed the 70 essences that are currently in use, and many combinations of essences.

To make the essences, the dew of the flowers is collected and their vibrational healing signature is imprinted onto a carrier solution (a mix of purified water and alcohol for preservation).

What are their benefits?

Australian Bush flower essences bring about balance in the body and mind, and therefore a sense of well-being. They are mostly used for their emotional healing: grief, depression, anxiety and resentment are examples of emotions that they can address.

They can also help to balance hormones: they are useful at every stage of womanhood and can help anyone with other hormonal imbalances (for example resulting from a hyper-active thyroid).

Physical issues, such as recovering from an illness or digestive issues, can be healed by Australian Bush Flowers too. Furthermore, the essences support us when travelling to recover from jetlag and can protect us against wave-form energy.

How to use Australian Bush Flowers

The essences are safe to take for all ages, as well as during pregnancy and breastfeeding. They are usually taken orally as drops, twice a day over several weeks. But there are plenty of other options.

As they contain a bit of alcohol to preserve them, some may prefer to rub them onto the skin: onto babies’ fontanelles, on pulse points such as the wrists or behind the ears.

You can add them to a bath, or a cream or a massage oil. You can even add them to homeopathic remedies taken in water.

Unlike other products, you can safely take Australian Bush Flower essences alongside conventional medicines. They are complementary to homeopathic remedies.

Examples of essences

The above photo is of the flower Bottlebrush. The essence from this beautiful flower has a sweeping action, it brushes aside what is not needed. It can help those going through major life changes, such as becoming a parent, starting school, or becoming old. It can also facilitate bonding between a mother and her new-born. This essence is included in several ready-made combinations such as “Transition”, “Adol”, “Woman” and “Calm and clear”.

Another example is the essence made from the flower Crowea. It is very good for people constantly worrying. It has a calming effect and brings a sense of well-being. It also helps to balance the stomach. Crowea essence is frequently prescribed and is used in many combinations.

If you would like to find out more about these essences or a homeopathic treatment, please contact me using those details.

With best wishes for a healthy life,

Priscille Francetti LCCH MARH

Homeopath

References:

About Bach Flower Remedies article

Australian Bush Flower Essences book by Ian White.

Getting to know the Australian Bush Flower Essence Combinations workshop by Caroline Gaskin.

It is estimated that between 30 and 50% women experience period pain that is bad enough to disrupt their life. It is a lot. Painful periods are common, and often unexplained. There are many conditions which can trigger pain during a bleed, such as endometriosis or fibroids, but the subject of this article is unexplained period pain. And the good news is that there are ways to manage the pain and maybe even eradicate the pain totally. Periods do not have to be painful.

Having a period is a good way to cleanse our body, flush out toxins and start a new month afresh. I can certainly appreciate that many of you do not like this time of the month, and I fully sympathise with you. But in this article I want to share with you some tips and homeopathic remedies that can help manage the pain. I also share my story, which will hopefully inspire some of you.

Symptoms of painful periods

Period pains are most often cramping pains in the lower abdomen during the bleed. But the symptoms vary greatly from woman to woman. Sometimes the pain starts before the flow; most of us will suffer during the flow; and a few women have more pain towards the end of the bleed. In addition, the pain can be felt in the back, in the vulva or in the thighs. Some of us also experience a change in body temperature, or perhaps nausea and vomiting. Emotions can be impacted too: some will become tearful whilst others may become irritable or depressed during their menses.

Why are periods painful?

This is an extract from the NHS website:

“Period pain happens when the muscular wall of the womb tightens (contracts). Mild contractions continually occur in your womb, but they’re usually so mild that most women cannot feel them.

During your period, the wall of the womb starts to contract more vigorously to help the womb lining shed as part of your period.

When the wall of the womb contracts, it compresses the blood vessels lining your womb. This temporarily cuts off the blood supply – and oxygen supply – to your womb. Without oxygen, the tissues in your womb release chemicals that trigger pain.

While your body is releasing these pain-triggering chemicals, it’s also producing other chemicals called prostaglandins. These encourage the womb muscles to contract more, further increasing the level of pain.”

In my experience, period pain is often the result of stress, anxiety and work overload. Perimenopause is also a common cause.

Some practical tips to help alleviate the pain

Period pain can be debilitating at its worse and so taking steps towards managing the pain between bleeds is a good idea.

1. Deep breathing

What has been helping me the most is breathing exercises. Taking a long breath through the nose, into the abdomen is incredibly powerful. If you can, take a few moments each day to just breathe. Take a long breath, hold for a few seconds, and then exhale slowly. Repeat several times. This can be done during meditation, yoga, or done on its own.

2. Calming down the mind

Calming down the mind is also a powerful tool to manage period pain. Breathing, meditation, yoga, tai chi or any gentle exercise help with managing stress or other emotions. Doing it daily or several times a week, rather than just during your period, will help in the long run.

3. Nutrition

Throughout the month your hormones will fluctuate, and this is more noticeable in the second phase of the cycle. Progesterone levels increase steadily and then drop a few days before the flow starts. This means that the liver has to work harder to clean the blood from these hormones. And you are more likely to suffer from period pain or abdominal discomfort before and during your period if your liver is overburdened.

Eating green vegetables, particularly a few days before the flow starts, and avoiding alcohol, sugar and heavy meals will help support your liver. If you tend to have pimples or spots around your period, this is a sign that your liver needs rebalancing.

4. Magnesium

Magnesium taken as a supplement or via a foot bath will also help to alleviate cramps.

5. Take time for yourself

When your body hurts, it is a sign that it needs to be looked after. It is important to acknowledge it and maybe change your priorities when you have your period. It is hard when we have a job, children to look after, and various responsibilities. But if you can, take some time to yourself and rest or do some exercise, or whatever your body is calling for. Sometimes, just acknowledging your body needs taken care of can help.

6. Massage your belly

Massaging your belly on a regular basis will support your digestion as well as helping with period pain. Using essential oils, such as lavender oil or this Women’s balance oil, will provide further relaxation. Start by massaging your abdomen in a clockwise direction starting from your liver, repeat several times. You can continue by going a bit deeper and massaging your belly as if kneading dough, still in a clockwise direction. Finally, rest your hands on your tummy whilst breathing deeply for a minute or two.

A note on conventional treatments

Several conventional treatments exist for managing period pain. Whilst they can be useful if you are in pain and have a commitment you cannot postpone, the drugs only suppress the issue instead of addressing the cause. They have a major impact on the liver, and can have further side effects. Some treatments, such as the birth control pill, have a detrimental impact on the endocrine system, therefore disrupting hormones. Limiting the use of conventional drugs and looking for alternative natural approaches have a more durable effect whilst supporting you in a holistic way.

Homeopathic remedies for painful periods

Homeopathy offers many remedies to alleviate, or eradicate, period pain. The remedy selected for you will depend on your own symptoms. Here are three examples of homeopathic remedies that can be taken during the acute phase of the pain.

– Mag Phos

This is probably the most commonly used remedy for period pain. It is useful if you suffer from severe cramping pain which is better for rubbing the abdomen and warmth. The pain is worse in the cold and exertion can bring on cramps. Feeling better for hard pressure or doubling up is another indication for this remedy, so if you are one of those who like to curl up in bed with a hot water bottle, Mag Phos may well help you. Drop a couple of pills in a mug of warm water and sip it throughout the day.

– Belladonna

The main indications for choosing this remedy are: sharp or throbbing pain, profuse bright red blood, a great sensitivity to pain. If you also feel worse for lying down, but better for standing or sitting down upright, then Belladonna is likely to help you.

– Chamomilla

This remedy is well known for teething pains but is also very useful to manage period cramps. The pain feels like labour pain and may extend down the inner thighs. You will feel very angry whilst in pain, perhaps capricious, not knowing what you want. The pain is better for a cold application and vigorous walking. If the pain was triggered by anger or emotion and your symptoms match these described here, then look no further.

I suggest taking theses remedies in a 30C or 200C potency. If you are unsure of how to take remedies, then click here for some advice.

What about long-term pain management?

Managing the pain when it comes is certainly a relief. But if you endure painful periods on a regular basis, then a long-term treatment may be appropriate. There are many remedies such as Pulsatilla, Sepia, Cimicifuga or Nux Vomica which can be introduced in your treatment.

As homeopaths, one of the things we look for is addressing root cause of the issue. If we can do that, then we can help your emotional symptoms, hormonal imbalance as well as your monthly pain.

My story in short

Painful periods have been with me ever since puberty. My first period was very painful, although thankfully the pain became more manageable for the following few years. After seeing a French homeopath as a teenager, my periods actually became very easy for a couple of years or so.

I then moved to the UK and the pain returned progressively, to the point of being intolerable. Some months I had to take time off work because the pain was so bad. I had terrible cramping pains, on a few occasions the spasms would make me be sick. The flow was quite heavy and lasted 7 to 8 days, the pain lasted a good 5 days.

Eventually though, I turned back to homeopathy and I am glad to say that my periods became easier, lighter and shorter over the years. I may occasionally suffer from a few cramps, but they are very mild and of short duration. So if you have painful periods, be hopeful!

If you would like to find out more about a homeopathic treatment, book your free 30-minute chat here.

With best wishes for a happy life,

Priscille Francetti LCCH MARH

Homeopath

Children have had a challenging time over the last couple of years, and so promoting your child’s wellbeing is essential.

Generally speaking, life as a child, although more comfortable, is a lot harder now than a few decades ago. Because life outside home is less safe, we have to live with more boundaries and rules. Who would let their 4 or 5 year old go out to play in the street without adult supervision these days?

It is also apparent that peer pressure is becoming stronger and at a younger age.

All this, sadly, affects our children’s wellbeing. This article is about promoting it as well as giving ideas to support your child grow up, help them become resilient young adults and comfort them during a crisis.

Ways to promote resilience and self-confidence

1. Getting to know oneself

For children to become more resilient, they need to get to know themselves. Once they know what they are like, what they enjoy and what they don’t enjoy so much, then it is easier for them to stay true to themselves.

There are several things they can do to get to know themselves:

• Write down their favourite thing and least favourite thing, and why.
• Think about their emotions and what might have been the trigger. What has brought on anxiety or joy?
• What are their strengths and recent successes?
• On the other hand, where do they need to improve? Is there an experience they can learn from?
• What are the things they would like to do in an ideal world?

Being self-aware helps to make better decision, whether about friendships, joining in games, choosing an activity or after school club, etc. In turns, it boosts self-confidence.

2. Being creative

Encourage your child to express themselves by doing something creative. This can be drawing, painting, cooking, gardening, playing sports, singing or playing an instrument, etc.

There are many ways children can express themselves, perhaps some will need to try various things before finding their preferred activity. All is good to build confidence, get to know themselves and express themselves.

3. Journaling

Writing up a journal is a way for any of us to express ourselves, offload our negative experiences, write our hopes and desires.

When growing up, I was quite secretive and loved having a secret diary which I could talk to. Journaling can be done on their own, or with an adult if the child feels like it. It also has the benefit of practicing hand-writing and doodling.

The best is to keep a journal nearby, perhaps on a bedside table, and go at it as and when. Getting into a routine of writing a little bit each day around the same time can have further benefits as it helps them feel safe.

4. Helping others

Helping others can help towards our wellbeing too. It gives us a sense of purpose, which in turns promotes self-confidence and motivation. It helps to create positive emotions which are good for our health and of course wellbeing.

Helping others can be simply at home, helping a sibling or a parent with tasks in the house. It can be with friends and neighbours. It can also be through volunteering for a charity or a local event. Here are two charities which are worth looking into if volunteering appeals to you: Kids Against Plastic and Young People – #iwill

Managing a crisis

Despite our best efforts as parents or carers, occasional crises or difficult times are unavoidable; they are part of life. Managing them and finding ways that work for each of us help us grow too. Here are a few practical tips for managing a crisis:

1. Take a deep breath

Being aware of our own breathing is incredibly helpful in managing anxiety or a panic attack. One way is to take a long deep breath and counting to 4 on the inhale, hold 2 seconds if possible and exhale whilst counting to 4. Repeat a few times.

Another more playful way is to breathe through the nose and exhale through a straw. Repeat for a few minutes.

2. Focus on something

Looking at things around us and focusing on one of them can also be useful. Choose an object and think about what it looks, its colour and its shape. You might even want to hold the object and see how it feels.

3. Give a big hug

A hug can help release a hormone called oxytocin which helps to manage anxiety and fear. If your child is willing, give them a big hug and ask them to count to 20 (or longer).

4. The 5-4-3-2-1 grounding exercise

This lovely exercise promotes grounding and soothes anxiety.
Name: 5 things you can see. 4 things you can touch. 3 things you can hear. 2 things you can smell. 1 thing you can taste.

These tips are courtesy of @thecontentedchild

A few more tips

Here are a few more tips to support your child’s wellbeing:

• Make sure your child stays hydrated as dehydration can increase the level of a stress hormone called cortisol. Drinking in sips throughout the day is better than a whole glass at once, but do what you can.
• A good sleep routine is important: it provides better rest and also security for the child. You can get further advice on how to help children sleep here.
• Spend time as a family. For example, eat a meal together at the dinner table or do some activities together at the weekend.
• Focus on gratitude daily. When going to bed, get your child to name three things they have enjoyed doing or are grateful for that day. And tell them what three things you are grateful for.
• Manage screen time/apps etc, particularly at the end of the day. This article is explains the negative effects of technology on children. In addition, the blue light emitted by devices can affect the production of melatonin (the sleep hormone) and therefore the ability to fall asleep.
• Manage your own stress levels. Children can be incredibly sensitive and pick up our emotions even if we don’t express them verbally. Being positive will contribute to your child’s wellbeing.

If despite your efforts your child is still struggling to stay positive emotionally or is having repetitive crises, then homeopathy may be what they need. Homeopathy is a gentle medicine that supports each individual and can help to overcome difficulties or past traumas. It can also help to manage symptoms such as panic attacks, disinterest in life or violence. Get in touch if you think your child needs help.

With best wishes for a happy life,

Priscille Francetti LCCH MARH

Homeopath

At a time when staying healthy is particularly important, I am sharing a few simple things to do to support your immune system this winter, as well as a few useful homeopathic remedies in case of illness.

When the immune system works well, you don’t even know it is there. You may get in contact with germs, viruses or bacteria, but your immune system is reactive enough so you don’t know your body has been near anything that could make you ill.

The immune system is affected by what we eat, how we sleep, whether we exercise and how stressed we are. So let’s see how we can easily support our immune system:

How to support your immune system

1. Stay hydrated.

Drink plenty of water throughout the day. Also get a few hot drinks. If you get a viral infection, try and increase your intake of hot drinks as viruses don’t like heat in general. Chicken broth, herbal teas or lemon and honey are preferable to tea and coffee.

2. Eat plenty of vegetables and fruit

Vegetables and fruit provide many nutrients for your body. Variety is a key word when it comes to nutrition. Aim for a “rainbow” of fruit and vegetables every day. This chart provides examples of what to eat for each colour of the rainbow.

Local and seasonal products will also contain more nutrients than those that have travelled the world and are out of season.

3. Get into a good sleep routine

A good sleep routine is essential so your body can rest and restore overnight.

As our bodies are stretched a bit more during the winter to fight the cold, we get more tired. It is important to acknowledge this and allow more time for rest than we would normally. Some might feel like hibernating altogether!

4. Add some vitamins and minerals to your diet

In the winter, and when illnesses are getting around, add some vitamins and minerals to your diet:

• • Vitamin C: it has powerful anti-viral properties. Start by taking 1000mg a day in several doses. If you get ill, you can increase the dose up to 10g daily (generally increase it until your stool is loose, this is your maximum tolerated level).
  • Vitamin D3: take 1000 to 2000 International Units (IU) per day in the winter. If you are deficient in vitamin D, then you may want to take more initially (up to 5000 IU a day for a couple of weeks). You can get a free test at your local surgery to get a better idea of how much your intake should be.
  • Zinc: 15mg daily
  • You may also wish to add Magnesium and Selenium.
  • Finally, probiotics also help to keep your immune system healthy. When your guts are healthy, they are more able to absorb nutrients.

5. Keep exercising

As long as it is possible, keep going out for walks, a jog or a cycle. This will help you physically and emotionally. If you are unable to go out, try exercising at home: there are many options on the internet. It is important to exercise regularly but also to choose an activity you enjoy.

6. Manage your stress levels

Stress can have a powerful impact on our health and immunity, so it is important to manage stress levels. Exercising will help you, but other ways include meditation and mindfulness, connecting with nature, having a good laugh and enjoying yourself.

 

3 homeopathic remedies for sudden onset of colds and flu

Homeopathic remedies help recover more quickly from an illness and are even more effective when taken at the start of the illness.
Here are 3 remedies particularly useful when the symptoms of flu and colds come on suddenly.

• Aconite

The illness is usually the result of being out in the cold and wind. If you need this remedy, you will feel restless, worse in a warm room and in the evening. You may also be frightened of death.

• Belladonna 

This is a good remedy when heat and redness are present (and so your face is flushed and red). The fever is usually high and your pupils are dilated. You feel better in a warm room but worse for lying down and at night.

• Baptisia

It is also good for high fever. You will feel bruised all over your body, sweat a lot and be very thirsty.

There are many more remedies to support anyone at the beginning and throughout the various stages of an illness. Get in touch if you would like to find out more.

Further advice

Get more advice on how to keep your children healthy and nurse them during illnesses by downloading my free eBook http://bit.ly/Priscille-Homeopathy-Ebook

Find out about fevers, why they are good and how to look after a sick child in this article.

I hope you have found these simple steps to support your immune system useful. Do contact me if you would like further advice.

With best wishes for a healthy life,

Priscille Francetti LCCH MARH

Homeopath

Today I am sharing my story: how stress at work changed my life. I am glad now to say that it was for the better: this is how I became a homeopath.

My life before homeopathy

Before being a homeopath, I used to work in a finance department as a management accountant. At the time, I was sort of enjoying it. Although I used to get bored relatively quickly and would change job every 2 to 3 years. I like number crunching and this suited me; I was paid reasonably well and could manage my work-life balance. Until my son arrived.

Stress and exhaustion took over

I had originally left my job to look after our little one, but due to financial uncertainties, I went back to work when he was two years-old. This was a full-time job in a large multi-national company and was rather demanding. The first few months went by somehow, but I then moved to a new department to cover for a maternity leave. As well as learning the job, I had to learn my assistant’s job, recruit for the position and train the new employee. Soon, it was year-end, and in addition I was in charge of a major internal restructuring within our accounting software.

I like a job well done, being on the perfectionist side, and so was giving all I could. I was working long hours and it soon became exhausting to look after my family too. Stress took the better of me and sent me many signals: I was suffering from insomnia, my periods were unbearably painful, I had numerous headaches and then was diagnosed with gastritis. Worst of all, my relationship with my 3 year-old son deteriorated and he lost his self-confidence.

Time for change

Unfortunately, I did not come to the realisation that something needed to change until I had to take time off work for ill-health. I was close to a burn-out. At the time, I was seeing an acupuncturist, and she probably saved me from sinking any further. I eventually recognised that I could no longer carry on, and, as my request to go part-time was declined, I left my job. Thankfully our uncertainties were over by then and I did not have to worry about money. I slowly started to recover and the most beautiful thing was that within 3 weeks, my son was back his normal self and our relationship was improving – what a relief!

How I came to become a homeopath

Now, what was I going to do with myself going forward?

The first few months were dedicated to recovering and supporting my son who started primary school later that year. But then, it came apparent that I could not stay at home with nothing to do. Even if my energy levels were still low, I was getting bored. I started looking at job offers but could not face going back to a finance department. So I looked at what other qualities I had or wished to have and what activities brought me joy.

I have always had an interest in people, and particularly in helping them. So I needed to find how I could help people.

I had started to use homeopathy at home again, mainly to treat various acute ailments that my son had. And little by little, an idea (which had been planted by my acupuncturist) grew and germinated in the desire to become a homeopath. I looked at various places where I could train and found the Contemporary College of Homeopathy in Bristol. I decided to enrol and have not looked back!

There is always light at the end of the tunnel, always something to take or learn from a period of difficulty or stress. I am glad to say that this period helped me find my “Why”. I enjoy my job so much, it is fulfilling and extremely rewarding to help people heal naturally. I love helping people and also have a great concern for the environment. Homeopathy really ticks all the boxes.

For more information, please contact me at priscille@priscillehomeopathy.co.uk or on 07387 422 848, or via my contact page.

With best wishes for a stress-reduced life,

Priscille Francetti LCCH MARH

Homeopath

During the February half-term, my son and I decided to have a screen-free day. It was an initiative suggested by the school; after so many hours of online learning it was time to take a break. I offered to do it with my son to encourage him and make it fair. After all, I too spend many hours each day behind a screen.

But how was I going to occupy my son for a whole day, at home, during lockdown, and with no screen? As a family, we are reasonably strict when it comes to screen times. However, with our son growing up and the inevitable lockdown, we have become more relaxed about it.

I think both of us were a little apprehensive. Being screen-free meant we could not watch TV, play or work on our laptops or even look at our phones…

How I survived a screen free day?

It went very well and there was no need to worry!

Being screen free provided a space for being more creative: we opened a box of games we had not played in a long time and had a lot of fun. We also baked some biscuits and went for a nice walk together. We had more time for each other and also enjoyed some time on our own reading a book.

In the evening, I played a boardgame with my husband and then we did some crosswords before going to bed. It was very relaxing!

This was a lovely day and it really felt like being on a day off. I felt refreshed the next day and ready for a day’s work. And as a bonus, my son and I both slept better that night as we had not been exposed to the blue light or radiation from our devices*! We will certainly do this again.

How to take pleasure in a screen-free day?

Before you begin, decide on what kind of day you would like. Is it going to be a day of fun and socialising with family or friends, a retreat or resourcing day for you only, a day where you are going to catch up on spring cleaning? Or perhaps a mix of all of them?

Then, make sure you have nothing to worry about on the day. You may wish, for example, to turn your “out of office” message on and add an appropriate recorded message to your phone.

If you are in regular contact with some friends or family members by phone, it may be a good idea to tell them what you are doing and say that you won’t be available to chat or message on a specific day.

In the event that you really have to check your messages and be in touch with someone on the day, then just keep it to a certain time of the day and once only, for example at the end of the afternoon. So you have had most of your day off and will not be near a screen before going to bed.

A few ideas to do on the day

Plan some activities ahead depending on your intentions. Here are a few ideas:

• Plan to meet with a friend for coffee or a walk/jog.
• Book a massage, shiatsu or acupuncture treatment to help relax and unwind more deeply (if allowed).
• If you don’t like cooking, prepare some meals ahead so you can reheat them at the last minute.
• Indulge in a warm bath at a time that suits you best.
• Get some books from your local library or buy a magazine beforehand if you prefer, or enjoy a the trip to the library or shop on the day.
• Listen to some music, play an instrument or sing if you wish.
• Write down your thoughts, take stock and think of small changes you would like to implement in your life.

When the day comes, enjoy it! I am sure that, like me, you would like to repeat the experience.

* Blue light affects our melatonin production, see this article for more information.

For more information, please contact me at priscille@priscillehomeopathy.co.uk or on 07387 422 848, or via my contact page.

With best wishes for a stress-reduced life,

Priscille Francetti LCCH MARH

Homeopath

As we start this new year in the same way as last year ended, we may find it a bit challenging… This has been difficult for many of us, not only because we miss seeing our friends and family, but also because the wintery weather doesn’t allow us to get outside as much as we would like.

Looking after yourself is becoming if prime importance if we all want to keep our spirits up. If we look after ourselves, then we are happier and have more energy and patience to look after others and accomplish our daily tasks.

Here are a few ways you can look after yourself in those difficult times:

Do something relaxing each day

This may be having a nice bath with essential oils (such as lavender) before going to bed. Or perhaps you would enjoy reading a good book or doing some puzzles with your partner? Choose whatever activity suits and you enjoy.

Switch off from work

Working from home has brought some new challenges into our lives. Switching off from work can be difficult, especially if you don’t have a separate room for your work. So it is important to establish some boundaries and ensuring you switch off your work laptop and phone at a said time and don’t go back until the next morning. It is also important to keep your week-ends free of work if possible. This will help you stay sane and be more productive when you get back to work.

Meditate

Meditation or mindfulness are good ways to clear your mind from the day’s worries. You do not need to spend long doing it, perhaps 5 or 10 minutes each day, but it is quite powerful! If you are not sure where to start, there are various apps or websites that can help you with it (such as Headspace Meditation and Sleep Made Simple – Headspace)

Exercise

Doing regular exercise not only helps staying fit but it also helps your wellbeing. You will find much better each day if you are able to spend 15 minutes doing some physical exercises. It does not have to be strenuous, the rule is to choose something you like. And if you can exercise outdoors, that is even better!

Write a daily journal

Writing a journal can help to free your mind from what is going on. It may help releasing some of the stress and tension you are experiencing too. Take a few minutes each day to write down anything that comes through your mind. It does not have to be structured or look pretty. And you needn’t go back to it ever again. Write, free up your mind and file.

Get into a good sleep routine

Getting good sleep is important to get enough energy to get through the day. It also helps support our immune system. Going to bed at a regular time every day helps our body clock. Before going to bed, make sure you have switched off your phone (or left it in a different room if you need to have it on all night) and avoid screen time about an hour before you go to bed. Blue light has an effect on our brain, which may then make it difficult to go to sleep.

Choose one, two or more of these activities each day. You may also wish to do them all either in the same day or across the week. Alternating activities is also good for your mind and body.

It may not be easy to find the time to fit those steps into your daily routine. If you have children and also work, you might think that you do not have enough hours in the day. One way round it is to build a daily timetable to incorporate some downtime into your day. For some, it may mean getting up a little earlier than usual. This may seem daunting at first but it is worth it!

Feel free to contact me for further advice.

With best wishes for a healthy life,

Priscille Francetti LCCH MARH

Homeopath